Comments on: SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN…SPEAK UP! http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/ Overthrow Judgment. Liberate Love. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:02:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Ed Carp http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-3435 Ed Carp Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:47:00 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-3435 Absolutely. Too many times, the only people who speak up are the "me, too" sort of joiners who have an agenda to fill by joining the haters and condemners and slammers. Andrew Carnegie was a big proponent of the "praise in public, criticize in private" mentality, but almost no one does that anymore - it seems as if the only way that people are heard nowadays is if they're screaming hate-filled invectives at someone else. Absolutely. Too many times, the only people who speak up are the “me, too” sort of joiners who have an agenda to fill by joining the haters and condemners and slammers. Andrew Carnegie was a big proponent of the “praise in public, criticize in private” mentality, but almost no one does that anymore – it seems as if the only way that people are heard nowadays is if they’re screaming hate-filled invectives at someone else.

]]> By: Ed Carp http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1385 Ed Carp Mon, 01 Mar 2010 13:47:29 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1385 Absolutely. Too many times, the only people who speak up are the "me, too" sort of joiners who have an agenda to fill by joining the haters and condemners and slammers. Andrew Carnegie was a big proponent of the "praise in public, criticize in private" mentality, but almost no one does that anymore - it seems as if the only way that people are heard nowadays is if they're screaming hate-filled invectives at someone else. Absolutely. Too many times, the only people who speak up are the “me, too” sort of joiners who have an agenda to fill by joining the haters and condemners and slammers. Andrew Carnegie was a big proponent of the “praise in public, criticize in private” mentality, but almost no one does that anymore – it seems as if the only way that people are heard nowadays is if they're screaming hate-filled invectives at someone else.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1380 Michelle Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:50:46 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1380 The leaders of the church we attended had told everyone not to speak to us. Granted, it was a legal issue, but not even a word of prayer. One old minister defied the church's stand and spoke to us, letting the leaders know of their wrong course. However, when my kids pastor's didn't speak to them, pastors who had been vital to their spiritual development up to that time, well...it spoke volumes to them of judgment and lack of love from the church. One son is still reeling from the effects of the lack of communication, not feeling he can trust any youth leadership again.<br><br>Now, on the other side of the "drama" I have pulled so far away from the church and "believers". I've found the church is not a safe place. It's much easier, and feels much safer, to do it away from the "church". With God's support and others who are willing to accept their flaws (Celebrate Recovery has been good). I'm not sure where His people have gone. The leaders of the church we attended had told everyone not to speak to us. Granted, it was a legal issue, but not even a word of prayer. One old minister defied the church's stand and spoke to us, letting the leaders know of their wrong course. However, when my kids pastor's didn't speak to them, pastors who had been vital to their spiritual development up to that time, well…it spoke volumes to them of judgment and lack of love from the church. One son is still reeling from the effects of the lack of communication, not feeling he can trust any youth leadership again.

Now, on the other side of the “drama” I have pulled so far away from the church and “believers”. I've found the church is not a safe place. It's much easier, and feels much safer, to do it away from the “church”. With God's support and others who are willing to accept their flaws (Celebrate Recovery has been good). I'm not sure where His people have gone.

]]> By: Silence is NOT Golden | jenniclayville.com http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1379 Silence is NOT Golden | jenniclayville.com Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:21:03 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1379 [...] Yesterday, Mike Foster, wrote a post on the People of the Second Chance website titled SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN… SPEAK UP! [...] [...] Yesterday, Mike Foster, wrote a post on the People of the Second Chance website titled SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN… SPEAK UP! [...]

]]> By: tam http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1378 tam Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:08:07 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1378 theres a time for silence, but there is definitely a time for words. and this post speaks to that so very well said. ive been on both ends and have had to learn this the hard way. <br><br>its funny...the thing ive found is im less afraid of how my words might effect the other, and more concerned of how i might look if they have the wrong effect. silly.<br><br>i speak more when i can get past myself. hard truth. #realme ;) theres a time for silence, but there is definitely a time for words. and this post speaks to that so very well said. ive been on both ends and have had to learn this the hard way.

its funny…the thing ive found is im less afraid of how my words might effect the other, and more concerned of how i might look if they have the wrong effect. silly.

i speak more when i can get past myself. hard truth. #realme ;)

]]> By: Rocco http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1377 Rocco Sat, 27 Feb 2010 00:10:21 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1377 Steve, <br><br>Good words, makes me think of "...mourn with those who mourn, rejoice with those who rejoice..."<br><br>(don't mean to be a 'bible thumper', God is just putting these things in my head :) Steve,

Good words, makes me think of “…mourn with those who mourn, rejoice with those who rejoice…”

(don't mean to be a 'bible thumper', God is just putting these things in my head :)

]]> By: chrystiecole http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1376 chrystiecole Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:51:32 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1376 Very well said! Love it! Very well said! Love it!

]]> By: Traylor Lovvorn http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1375 Traylor Lovvorn Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:26:30 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1375 Most welcome, Mike. BTW...Tony Hale says hello. Most welcome, Mike. BTW…Tony Hale says hello.

]]> By: Shellie Kubicki http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1374 Shellie Kubicki Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:02:42 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1374 Gee, Mike, only 1 critic in your head??? There is a freaking committee in mine sometimes! The only person I want to hear is God. It's unfortunate when I drown Him out with all those nay-sayers in my head. But, I did, finally, open my ears & close my mouth. About a week into recovery & treatment. I finally uncrossed my arms. Let the newness flow over me for the first time in many years. I am coming up on 1000 days clean & I am amazed at what God has & is doing in my life. <br><br>Silence can be golden when I am the one listening to the person in pain. Sometimes that's all that person needs. My silence, my ears, and a shoulder (or full-on hug). And God. I cannot "fix" or change that person for them. But, I can pray with them. I can support them. I can encourage them. So many walked the path ahead of me & paved a way so the hurdles aren't so high. Other people sacrificed for me. The greatest of all was Jesus. Gee, Mike, only 1 critic in your head??? There is a freaking committee in mine sometimes! The only person I want to hear is God. It's unfortunate when I drown Him out with all those nay-sayers in my head. But, I did, finally, open my ears & close my mouth. About a week into recovery & treatment. I finally uncrossed my arms. Let the newness flow over me for the first time in many years. I am coming up on 1000 days clean & I am amazed at what God has & is doing in my life.

Silence can be golden when I am the one listening to the person in pain. Sometimes that's all that person needs. My silence, my ears, and a shoulder (or full-on hug). And God. I cannot “fix” or change that person for them. But, I can pray with them. I can support them. I can encourage them. So many walked the path ahead of me & paved a way so the hurdles aren't so high. Other people sacrificed for me. The greatest of all was Jesus.

]]> By: JenniClayville http://www.potsc.com/uncategorized/silence-is-not-golden-speak-up/comment-page-1/#comment-1373 JenniClayville Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:00:05 +0000 http://www.potsc.com/?p=518#comment-1373 ooooh... i'm gonna quote you on that the next time Brian and I have a disagreement! <br><br>"SHUT IT, HONEY! I HAVE A HEART OF GRACE!!!"<br><br>what? no? ooooh… i'm gonna quote you on that the next time Brian and I have a disagreement!

“SHUT IT, HONEY! I HAVE A HEART OF GRACE!!!”

what? no?

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