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STRUCK BY LIGHTNING

Tyler Knott was struck by lightning as a teenager.
His second chance has led him to exude love, hope, passion, grace, and joy through his words and his photography.

We are amazed by his courage and vulnerability. We know you will be, too.

We will be featuring his work as a series, we handpicked pieces that spoke to our 5 lifemarks- empathy, tenacity, courage, purpose and hope. If you are or know anyone who is a voice of second chances- let us know! We would love to feature your work, too.

Introducing, Tyler Knott.


MAY YOU BE BRAVE

By Eryn Erickson:

Growing up, I was constantly made fun of for my size. I heard every joke that degrades being short, and I defined my value from those jokes. I feared that I didn’t belong and I felt rejected. I thought I was alone and those hurtful words caused me to feel unworthy of love.

When I finally did overcome those feelings, I found out that I’m not the only one who has struggled. If only I had known that I wasn’t so alone…

That was why I decided to quit my full time job and pursue So Worth Loving with full force. I had to overcome the fear of failure once again, and I can’t express how much adrenaline I felt that day. After the words “I quit” came out of my mouth, I was consumed with thoughts of both positive and negative:

  • “You can finally pursue what you have a passion for.”
  • “It’s just the beginning!”
  • “What if you suck at this?”
  • “What if you made the biggest mistake of your life?”

So I have to be brave.  And for the month of May, I have committed myself to the word brave — as a reminder that maybe I can relate to someone else, and let them know they’re not alone in their struggles.

Join me in encouraging others, and let them know that they are worthy of love.  Choose your own word for May, and let the world know.   We’ve launched May You Be — a place for people to fill in the blank for what they have overcome, or are still overcoming.

So grab a piece of paper, fill in the blank, take a picture, and let people know what word you are committing to for the month of May. Head over to May You Be and upload your photo! Use the hashtag  #MayYouBe on social media.

You never know… it could be a word someone else is struggling with.


YOUR VOICE MATTERS

People of the Second Chance is all about community, and we’ve rolled out more ways than ever to link up. Your story matters to us. So does your voice, your perspective … and YOU.

Get involved today, and join us in making scandalous grace an everyday part of the world around us!

  • Check out our most recent video premier, and share it with others.
  • Learn about POTSC Groups, and take a chance by joining or starting one.
  • Join the Grace Mob, and become an instrument of practical, actionable grace.
  • Share your story!  Email us (mohan@potsc.com) and lend your voice to the movement.  Drafts, questions, comments … it’s all valued.  We can even help you craft your story if necessary.

Have you recently gotten involved? Share your thoughts below!


JOIN THE SCANDAL & RECLAIM GRACE

By Mike Foster:

Imagine what could happen to the quantity of grace in the world if every single one of us determined to get a little bit better at giving grace.

If we decided to do the impossible and forgive?

If we finally let that one person we’ve been grudging against off the hook?

If we—and maybe here’s the real shocker—decided to show ourselves a little mercy?

What if a tribe of people rose up and reclaimed real grace, big grace, scandalously generous grace on behalf of the faith?

That’s the point of starting a People of the Second Chance Group.

To set the stage to think differently. To recalibrate our views on grace. To invite the world to it’s second chance.

It is time for us to unleash second chance living. Click here to get started.


UNDATEABLE?

I read an article last week about a new British TV series called The Undatables, which examines the world of dating and the disabled.   It explores the difficulties that people with physical and mental disabilities can have with things that others take for granted — like meeting people and forming relationships.  As part of an organization that values community so strongly, this struck a chord with me.

What’s interesting is that, while the show’s concept revolves around people with “handicaps,” I’ve known people who have been undateable for entirely different reasons.  Some are incapacitated by substance abuse. Others are paralyzed by past trauma.  Still others are simply struggling to figure out who they really are.  In the end, it’s not even about dating, but struggling to find community in general.

And so it seems that we all have something in common — the capacity to find ourselves without community, even when we’re surrounded by people every day. POTSC believes that second chances start with community, and without it, grace tends to be far too scarce.

Shows like The Undateables remind me that there are people hurting for relationships all around us.  If you’re one of those people, know that you are among friends. Your story matters, your pain matters, and YOU matter.

What’s the un_____ you struggle with?  Share it below, and let’s see if we can’t strengthen our community this very day.


MARINERS CHURCH LAUNCHES POTSC

Posted by Mike Foster:

We are excited about a new partnership with Mariners Church, Irvine.

This past weekend Mariners rolled out a new ministry of their church called People of the Second Chance. The focus is on those in need of care and recovery.

Led by our great friend LV Hanson, every Thursday night from 7-9pm, individuals from all over Orange County will find hope and healing for their hurts.

I love the global/online movement of People of the Second Chance and the impact it is having literally all over the world. But I also believe very strongly in the local and face-to-face expression of our values. That’s what I love about this partnership and why we passionately support what Mariners is doing. Honestly, I hope to do more of this around the nation, share best practices/learnings and create a huge open door for people to experience radical healing with each other.

So whether you’ve experienced personal failure, crisis, abuse, addiction, loss, or pain—or you are simply searching for hope and the next right step towards healing, Thursday nights at Mariners is the place for you.

CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION.

WATCH LV SHARE THE VISION HERE.


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BURNING QUESTIONS

By the POTSC Team:

Every once in awhile, you have the opportunity to change the course of history.

This is not one of those moments.  But it’s close.

People of the Second Chance would like to pick your brain, and find out what questions you’ve been dying to ask us.

So tell us, what are you burning questions about POTSC?  Submit them below, and you just might see your question in an FAQ being prepared this very stinkin’ minute.

GO!

 


INTERVIEW W JON ACUFF: AUTHOR OF QUITTER

Posted by Mike Foster:

I had the chance the interview my friend Jon Acuff from Stuff Christians Like about his new book Quitter. It is an incredible read about how to pursue your dream and the realities that we all face. Quitter is profound in its honesty and is a great tool for all of us who want to make a difference in the world.

CLICK HERE TO BUY AND LEARN MORE ABOUT QUITTER.

Below is the interview I did with Jon:

1. What compelled you to write Quitter? Why this message at this time?

In 2008 I started writing a blog called stuffchristianslike.net. As that project started to gain momentum I started to get fun opportunities like writing a book and speaking at conferences around the country. I loved doing that and felt like I had bumped into something I was designed to do. But I started to feel caught between the tension of my day job and my dream job because I’d spend an hour doing what I love and then 40 hours at a day job that had nothing to do with it. I had a hard time living in those two different worlds. At first I thought I was the only one until I started to talk to people and realized we’re becoming the “I’m but” generation. When I ask people of all ages and walks of life what they do, they inevitably tell me, “I’m a teacher, but I want to be an artist.” “I’m a stay at home mom, but I want to start my own business.” “I’m a barista, but I’d love to start a non-profit.” I wrote the book for people who feel called to something but don’t know how to get there.

2. What do you see as the biggest lie about pursuing your dream?

There are a million lies that get loud when you pursue your dream, but one of them is that it should happen quickly. Impatience kills more dreams than failure. We want our dream to come true right this second and when it doesn’t we get discouraged and give up. And every dream takes the same amount of time, longer than we want. Dreams take so much more patience than we’re willing to give them most times. The lie is that patience is a punishment to a dream, but it’s not. It’s a gift.

3. You are taking chances and risking a lot in your own pursuit. What scares you the most about pursuing your dream?

Honestly? The opinion of other people. Often I really struggle with worrying what other people will think of me. What if I fail and people say, “He made a mistake doing things the way he did.” I often create fictional conversations in my head about how other people are interpreting my missteps. A counselor and friend of mine named Al Andrews challenged me on that. He said that in addition to wrestling with my own voices of doubt, when I assumed other people were negative about me, I was making up voices of doubt for them too. What an exhausted, tangled mess of fear and anxiety that is. So that’s something I’m working on right now, the commitment to spend more time controlling my own thoughts instead of trying to mind read the thoughts of other people.

4. How should your family factor into the equation of quitting?

The worst place you can put your spouse is on the opposite side of your dream because the harder you lean into the dream the further you’ll push them away. You get to this really toxic place where you interpret their feedback as an attack and end up saying things like, “Don’t you want me to dream? Why are you so against what I was created to do?” You’ve got to build support with in your family. That’s not to say that a spouse will feel exactly the same way about your dream as you will. If they did, it wouldn’t be your dream, it would be theirs. But it’s possible and critical to get your spouse on board.

5. What are the top things you constantly have to remind yourself on your own journey?

Be patient. The decisions you make today are not forever, they’re for today. Don’t value the criticism of anonymous strangers over the compliments of close friends. Being over your head is exactly where you should be when you start something new. Safe adventures make for really boring stories.

6. Speaking of recent “quitters,” should Oprah read your book? And could America been saved from the NBC show The Marriage Ref if Jerry Seinfeld had read your book?

I wish Oprah would read my book and then put it on her book club and buy a warehouse full of them. In that order. I completely forgot The Marriage Ref. I wish I could have heard the pitch meeting for that concept. Fortunately I’ve got the entire Seinfeld series on DVD so anytime I remember The Marriage Ref I can go back and watch The Hamptons episode. That is without a doubt the best Seinfeld episode of all time. There can be no argument on that point.


COMMUNITIES OF THE SECOND CHANCE

Posted by Mohan Karulkar:

Detroit happens to be in the middle of a revival.  It might not seem like it from the outside, but living, working, and serving in the area exposes you to a palpable, contagious hope.

In the week leading up to Easter, my church participated in a nationwide movement called Servolution, during which we saw our community of Real Church, among others, mobilized to dispense love, hope, and grace to the city of Detroit and surrounding areas.

The thing about a community is that, given the right conditions, it can be shaped into a critical mass, waiting to be set loose for God’s purposes.  It takes like-mindedness, selflessness, and a commitment to change, but given those conditions, communities can take a single idea and change the world with it.

Let’s talk a little bit about community today, and how to ignite the critical mass in the name of grace and love.

WHO IS YOUR COMMUNITY?

You’re not captain, president, supervisor, or head of anything, which pretty much means you’re out of luck when it comes to inspiring a community to action, right?

Wrong.

In short: look left, look right – and there’s your community.  Your church, small group, family, coworkers, classmates, neighbors, and friends are all communities you can mobilize.  Heck, you might even be a leader in some of those communities.  But the beauty of a critical mass is that you don’t have to be the leader to affect action within it – you only need to be contagious.  And that can happen regardless of your level of influence (just ask a mosquito with malaria).

So develop your ideas – your vision – for mobilizing your communities, through prayer and wise council.  Make them sticky through the SUCCESS method: a Simple, Unexpected, Credible, and Emotional Story (Thanks Malcolm, Chip, and Dan).  Share your ideas with others, and watch them spread.  (And yes, stickiness could be an entire post by itself.  Let’s tackle it in the comments for now.)

WHO CAN YOU SERVE?

Once you’ve got a community poised for action with a good idea, it’s time to start serving. A great way to serve is to go straight to hurting people – the man outside the bakery, the widowed neighbor, the boy who sits alone at lunch, etc.  However, there’s something to be said for access, and we don’t always have immediate access to people in need.  There’s also something to be said for resources, which can certainly be a roadblock to reaching otherwise accessible people.

Fortunately, both access and resources are available through partnerships with the people already invested in the environment around you: city government, influential businesses, and key charities all provide partnership opportunities that are more straightforward than you might realize.  Hospitals, libraries, the Parks department, bakeries, soup kitchens, and Adopt-a-Highway programs are great places to start.  They can provide access to neglected people and places that are aching for grace.  They can also provide resources like volunteer opportunities, donated food, work equipment, and even funding.

HOW TO SERVE?

This is a simple, but key point.  Organizations in need are not always consistent, predictable, or organized.  Luckily, servants are not demanding or dictating, but humble, flexible, eager, forgiving, and patient.  When you approach potential partners, offer your community, but be ready for them to define the service.  Have ideas, but be ready to scrap them.  Show up prepared, but be ready for plans to change.

Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether slave or free.  (Ephesians 6: 7-8)

We are free on Earth, but we are slaves to Christ, who was humble above all else. Remember that as you mobilize your community to spread His love and grace.

THE IDEA

So what was our “single idea” that we used to dispense grace on the environment around us?  Simple: every day, for 7 days, we threw our community behind service projects that directly benefited the people of Detroit and Hamtramck, the locations of Real Church’s two campuses.  Through actions that included renovating police stations to handing out bread to manning carnival games and bounce houses, our community spread the message of God’s love and grace to children and adults alike.

And please, understand that the point isn’t to brag on my church, or even my city, but to inspire you to ask, “Why not my community?”

So let’s talk about it:

  • Who are your communities?
  • Who are you potential partnerships?
  • What are your ideas?
  • What ideas have been successful for you?

Use the comment space to bounce your thoughts off each other, and maybe even discover the spark that ignites your critical mass!

(top photo: Stephen McGee)


TASTING THE PAIN (& GRACE) OF MY NEIGHBORS

Posted by David Trotter:

As I stood in front of a large portrait of Adela (my neighbor), I took a deep breath and welcomed her family and friends to a day of celebration…a celebration of her 69 years of life. The last few had been quite difficult for her, and she desperately wanted to go Home. On several occasions when I visited her in the hospital, she would turn her weary head and whisper, “David, I’m ready. I’m ready to see Jesus.”

I’ve had the privilege of officiating countless funerals, but this one was like no other.

I met this dear woman and her extended family when my wife and I moved onto Lemming Street in 2003. That December, we went door to door introducing ourselves and delivering cookies…inviting people to our first Christmas service at the new church plant we were launching.

Within a few months, Adela’s 20-something son and his wife (who both lived with her) attended a Sunday service, and God began to slowly transform their lives. I’ll never forget that night in my living room as tears streamed down their cheeks, and this softhearted husband and wife made a life-altering decision to follow Jesus. Not only did I baptize them, but I eventually baptized his mom as well…the woman I was now honoring in front of the church.

Before you get too intoxicated with that warm and fuzzy, spiritual feeling, let me cut through to the harsh realities of life.

In 2008 when I left my wife to be with her best friend (a leader in our congregation), I disappointed more people than I even know…especially those closest to me…especially my neighbors. Not only had their lives and marriage been transformed, but they eventually became influential leaders in our church. In fact, they were helping to lead our marriage ministry when my own marriage imploded.

After resigning from the church and moving in with my ‘mistress’, I found myself all alone when she left me 40 days later and went back to her husband and family. I checked myself into a mental hospital and spent three days trying to get my head straight. After being released, I learned just how devastated my neighbors truly were. As I was loading some furniture from my family’s garage into a moving truck, the husband led a group of people from a birthday gathering down to my home.

His loud voice carried from the front sidewalk down my driveway. “Hey Dave, we heard your girlfriend left you! I hope you feel the pain a million times more than your wife does!” A sinister laugh echoed from the group.

This was the neighbor I reached out to.
This was the man I cared for as he was struggling with his own marriage.
This was the man I led to Christ and baptized a few years earlier.
This same man was now mocking me.

“How much did you have to pay that doctor to sign you out of the hospital?” he jabbed.

I shook my head in disgust and tried to ignore the bitter taste of their pain as I swallowed my own words in silence. How could someone stoop to this level? How could someone I love attack me this brutally? Out of all the arrows that were aimed my way, this was the most painful…it came flying from the neighbors I had loved.

Months after I reconciled with my wife and moved back home, he emailed me to apologize. He explained his pain and disappointment, and he wanted to re-connect in person. Frankly, I had absolutely no interest in giving him a second chance. Sure, I ‘forgave’ him, but I didn’t want to have any sense of connection or relationship.

How ironic is that?

As the one who had disappointed and hurt so many through a public affair, I had the opportunity to extend a second chance to someone who attacked me in the midst of the darkest season of my life. Ever so slowly my hard heart began to soften over the months ahead.

A periodic wave as I drove by their home.
A handshake at a school carnival.
And, finally, an invitation to dinner at our home.
A tearful apology (by both of us) and grace was extended.

A different relationship developed over time…less pastor/parishioner and more like neighbors/friends….more like a second chance for both of us.

A few weeks ago in the final moments of his mother’s life, he texted me to see if I could go to the hospital to pray with his entire family. I dropped everything, and I rushed down to be with Adela and remind her family of God’s incredible love and grace. I held her hand and leaned in toward her ear. With her eyes closed and mouth wide open, I softly sang one of her favorite songs, “And He walks with me, and He talks with me, and He tells me I am His own…”

She quietly passed away that night.

Adela finally walked into the fullness of the Grace she longed for, and I simultaneously tasted the grace of her family…my neighbors…as they asked me to lead her funeral. Within a few days, I found myself standing in front of her portrait as I shared about her deep love for Jesus, and I basked in the second chances that had been both given and received.